Modern Family Tool Box: Guardrails Resource #1

Sunday we looked at the value of placing guardrails in our life for protection.  No one plans to wreck their marriage, finances, friendship or life in general.  The problem is we don’t plan not to.  It’s time for a plan.  Some of us need guardrails financially. If that’s the case we outlined tools last week HERE for you.

One of the greatest needs, especially in a man’s life is guardrails for our eyes.  Almost half of our country’s internet users visit pornographic websites. 35% of all internet downloads are pornographic in nature.  It’s a safe bet that many of you are struggling in a porn battle.

OK, let’s just get brutally honest – Some of you who are reading the post have looked at porn online in the last 48 hours.  You’re controlled by your lust.  Better yet, you’re a full-blown slave to your lust.  You need help.  You don’t need to pray another “God forgive me”…you’ve done that 1,234,876 times already.  Don’t get me wrong, you need repentance…and God will forgive.  What you really need is accountability.  Real. Honest. Wise. Accountability.

My internet activity is monitored every time I’m online.  Every two weeks an e-mail is sent to my accountability partner that will list any questionable/inappropriate websites I visit.  If I turn off the monitoring system, an e-mail is sent to my accountability partner telling him that I have turned off the software.

You need and can have the same setup.  It’s easy.  It’s free. It’s important.

First, you need to establish an accountability partner.  Guys, this needs to be a man, not a woman, not your wife.  Likewise, ladies this needs to be a woman for you.  This needs to be a person who is striving to walk with God.  This needs to be someone who will speak truth into your life and be honest with you.  This needs to be someone you can trust.

Second, you need to download the X3watch software from the XXX Church guys HERE.  You and your accountability partner can download the software free.

X3 Watch also provides inexpensive software families can download to enhance the accountability and security of their computers, phones and tablets.  Additionally, there are resources for accountability, addiction and help for parents at

Another website blocking service is Safe Eyes.

Third, Download and read Porn Again Christian a free resource from Mark Driscoll.  Caution, it’s intense and really for men only.

These guardrails are essential to protecting our minds and hearts to be the men and women God has destined and called us to be.


Coming tomorrow on the blog: 

We realize addiction is a powerful hurdle to cross.  Whether it’s porn, alcohol. gambling, or your iPhone – addiction can and will destroy you. Tomorrow on the NorthStar blog we’ll feature resources aimed at helping recognize and beating addictions.

UPDATE: Related Posts:

Overcoming Addictions

– Brad


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